Active Listening
Set Abel to the method, the pair you want to learn first, and a slow speed. Let Abel ring all of the bells. Listen.
Close your eyes.
Listen to every bell in every change row, and pick out your chosen pair.
Every change.
By all means move your wrists up and down for the handstrokes and backstrokes.
Listen intently, eyes closed, and concentrate, listen to every change.
Again, and again, and again until you have it.
Up the speed by 5 minutes.
Keep going.

Realistically expect to repeat the eyes closed active listening exercise 20 to 30 times altogether, maybe 3 times per day for a fortnight.

This exercise is designed to
a) imprint the method structure of the pair, and
b) crucially, imprint the striking quality of the simulator as a dominant memory. Then, when you get to handbell speeds, just "go with the flow" and listen.

A real experience:

In April 2018, the webmaster set his stall out to learn how to ring and conduct Kent TB Minor, properly. Properly: means ringing with good striking, making the calls correctly, being sure on an on-going basis the ringing is correct. The following paragraph was sent to a supportive local ringer:

Interestingly, I am using Abel as a learning aid for conducting Kent TB Minor. I can ring the method and score over 9 at faster than 2 hours, but I can’t follow the coursing order (yet) faster than about 2hrs 15. “Follow” means ring 3-4, transpose or learn the c.o. after calls, see the slow bell and treble, check that every bells leads in the correct order. So I am ringing the method on autopilot nearly all the time, and the striking is good except when I lose the coursing order, or lose concentration. The only reason the striking is good is because my subconscious does it for me.